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There’s also the letter carrier Sam and his younger husband, Daryl, in “Big Boy,” who encounter a wealthy couple, Monroe and Richard, as they walk through the South End. Sam and Daryl have an open relationship within certain boundaries, which these new friends end up challenging. He recounts his early experiences at a bar where older men gathered, noting how these men, far from seeking validation, simply wanted to enjoy life without the pressure to conform to youthful ideals.

He is strikingly efficient with detail and description, offering just enough about clothes, décor, and appearance to enhance one’s understanding of character and setting but not so much as to create an indulgent soup of symbolism. “I’ve never been drawn to young, fit men,” says Felsenthal, “My desire has always been for those whose lives are etched in their faces and hands.” This attraction, while genuine, subjects him to judgment, often branded as having “daddy issues” or worse, a “gold-digger.” However, Felsenthal is adamant: his love for older men is not transactional but rooted in a deep connection that transcends appearances.

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Felsenthal describes the challenges of navigating a gay scene that largely dismisses intergenerational love.

These fictional boomers are both proving and disproving the cliché that “old age isn’t for sissies.”

Gambone is an extraordinarily good writer, though his work has usually been relegated to the queer lit sections of bookstores and websites because of his subjects. “The truth is, illness can strike anyone at any age,” he says.

Besides, there’s a fair amount of unrequited attraction among his characters, and all of the sexually charged scenes, whether consummated or not, are really about character. Accusations of exploitation or ulterior motives surface frequently. The book focuses on old age, and the gay men in its pages reflect frequently on the past. They highlight that love, in all its forms, defies easy categorization.

His sentences flow effortlessly in a conversational rhythm (either third person or first). This story is not just about personal attraction but also about breaking free from societal expectations.

Felsenthal’s attraction to older men has always set him apart, even within the gay community. But not exactly. If you'd like to contribute to the costs of maintaining this site for the benefit of others, you can do so here- your support would be amazing!

 

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Why I Only Sleep with Older Men: The Untold Truth of Intergenerational Love

In the LGBTQ community, there are numerous stories of self-discovery and identity, yet one subject remains deeply misunderstood—intergenerational relationships.

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For Felsenthal, age isn’t a barrier to love; rather, it enhances it.

Yet, the stigmatization is not limited to within the gay community. The mainstream gay culture, often centered around youthful beauty and muscle-bound figures, overlooks this subset of gay men who find beauty in age and experience.

And the present, in life and in fiction, is open-ended.

This page is available to subscribers. This focus on Jeff’s potential health problems overlooks the strength and depth of their connection, and the profound way they complement each other emotionally and intellectually.

Intergenerational love stories like Felsenthal’s challenge the preconceived notions of relationships, particularly within the LGBTQ community.

Society at large often misinterprets relationships between younger and older individuals, especially when they involve men. Then there’s the HR counselor Alan, in “Human Resources,” who lives in a bungalow in Mattapan with another single gay roommate in his 60s. Though much of gay life after Stonewall is defined by sexual liberation, Gambone is looking for a broader kind of fulfillment.

Indeed, the stories in this collection are tied together by more than just age, orientation, and proximity to the South End.

Religion often comes into play, as does social striving and the effects of gentrification. He’s a frequent visitor to Provincetown and lives, during the colder months, in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico.

Gambone’s prose is clear and mostly unembellished with literary flourishes.

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