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I know where my place is, and thats between womens legs;). Women experiment and we think nothing of it (in fact, we think it’s pretty cool). Understanding that you’re a often involves a period of self-discovery.

Is it possible for someone to choose to become gay?

Sexual orientation is not generally considered a choice.

Ironically, adult men being sexual with a man helps them feel that missing connection.

This conventional wisdom, however, frequently overlooks a profound and increasingly recognized reality: the fluidity of sexual identity, particularly in adulthood. I do not in any way feel this has any relation to my experimentation with boys or any question of sexual determination - I only bring this up to point out that I was exposed to sexuality (in a bad way!) at a very early age.

So, somewhere around 7 or so I distinctly recall having “show me yours, show you mine” with guy friends and that leading to other things like masturbation.

gay man goes straight

It helped me let go of all that guilt and self-condemnation. How do I even begin to navigate this new world?

This stage is characterized by a disorienting sense of identity loss. The focus then moves to managing this pain as compassionately as possible.

  • Seeking Guidance: Therapists, mediators, and support groups can provide invaluable frameworks for making these difficult decisions, helping individuals navigate legal, financial, and emotional complexities responsibly.
  • Long-Term Vision: Despite the immediate pain, living authentically ultimately fosters greater well-being for the individual, which can, in time, positively impact their ability to be a present and loving parent.

    By having sex with a man, they may be seeking resolution of the trauma (also known as trauma reenactment, not an actual sexual attraction, a trauma urge). Each man’s experience illuminates the unique challenges and universal themes inherent in a late-in-life coming out, highlighting the immense courage required for this profound self-acceptance journey.

    • In a world that often prizes certainty and clear-cut definitions, the landscape of human identity is far more nuanced and dynamic than commonly perceived.

    Beyond the Blueprint: Discovering Attraction and Authenticity in Later Life

    The journey of self-discovery is often portrayed as a quest completed in youth, leading to a fixed and immutable identity.

    (I knew of one person who openly boasted that he routinely successfully seduced straight guys at bars.)

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    Indygrrl10

    I worked at a topless bar and we had this gay cook, Jason. It wouldn’t bother me, in fact I have never even been approached. However, I would have no problem kissing a guy if I were in a movie or something along those lines.

    Also, I was just going to add that just b/c straight guys are curious about the size of other men, it doesnt make them gay or anything… thats just men and their competitive ways.

    I say to them, “Your anus doesn’t have a sexual orientation.” Many gay men don’t at all enjoy anal sex. Some straight men enjoy receiving anal sex, and if they can’t get it from their wife or female partner because they feel judged or shamed, they turn to other men. For Man #4, this involved acknowledging and validating feelings of sadness or confusion related to:

    • Lost Expectations: The future he had unconsciously planned, perhaps involving a heterosexual marriage or family structure.
    • The ‘Road Not Taken’: Mourning the path he thought he was on, even if it wasn’t truly authentic.

    Following this essential grieving process comes the powerful celebration of an authentic gay identity.

    Many boys while growing up participate in secret bonding experiences with other boys by masturbating together, and even masturbating each other (circle jerks).

    B.Serum7

    Not ever. Never experimented or even wanted to.